Based in Washington, Ross is a general manager of a food safety company. His musings explore life, work and every moment in between.

No points for winning, minus points for losing

Losing, however you define it, even the thought of losing, can become so psychologically crippling that winning offers little solace and no cause for celebration because you’ve imposed an internal accounting system on yourself that awards zero points for winning and minus points for losing. You can never get ahead on points. That’s exactly what happened to me…..Study the faces of executives or salespeople when they achieve a big “win.” The best description of their demeanor is “grim-faced,” and grim-faced they trudge cheerlessly on to fight without comment. They have allotted themselves zero points for victory.

-Bill Walsh, The Score Takes Care of Itself

I am terrible at celebrating my own wins. More and more I find my accomplishments as checkpoints and the finish line and expectations are just higher and further away. Winning becomes expected and only the points deducted accumulate in my mind. This will not do. When I get stuck in this rut I forget to celebrate, I in turn forget to celebrate those around me. An ugly cycle is formed.

We hit the mid-year point this week. There are many things to be thankful for, many accomplishments to cheer. Think about the last time you missed a celebratory win due to this arbitrary accounting error. Take a minute and choose to celebrate it. Join me this week in thanking and celebrating each other and ourselves for what we have accomplished thus far.

Choose your attitude, choose your success

Every Choice Has a Consequence