Based in Washington, Ross is a general manager of a food safety company. His musings explore life, work and every moment in between.

Recover in real time.

“When we give others the power to push our emotional buttons, we become their slaves, often without realizing it.”

— HeatherAsh Amara

I have thick skin. The manipulation woven in communication and barbs are something I can take in stride and I rarely lose my cool. Sometimes, this is an act. Things do get to me and I have to take time to recover. The more I trust someone, the more I let them in on my feelings. The closer I am to someone, the less I act as though everything is fine. I have a little ritual of recovery that includes some time alone and a pen and paper. A way for me to understand my thoughts, to process why I am upset and to free myself from any emotional burden.

Despite this system of recovery, I cannot get this quote out of my head. I refuse to be someone’s emotional slave. My skin isn’t as thick as I would like it to be. Instead of being proud of my recovery system I need to teach myself to recover in real time. This is the new priority.

Preparing for Winter.

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